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Finding Peace With Being Powerless Over The Situation You Are In
In this case, awaiting someone’s decision on the path your life is about to take.
It can be unbearable while having to wait for someone to make a decision that will impact your life, but if we understand why this is so stressful, we also come to understand what inner peace is and how to cultivate it.
These situations are hard to handle because of attachments.
An attachment is the resistance to any outcome that isn’t the desired one.
In this stressed state, the mind loves to spin stories about how things might go and all the tragic ways they might end. This causes us to tighten the attachment’s grip on that one perfect outcome even more.
Naturally, a constant dread fills the days until you finally get an answer from the person you were waiting for.
To feel better in situations like these, the first thing to do is address and resolve the attachment.
What Is An attachment?
An attachment is the resistance to change, and it brings with it a terrible gift. This lousy lump of coal is called tension, inner friction, stress, overthinking, judgement, etc… and they cause us to be in a state of…
