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How Offering Compassion to the Ones That Hurt You Actually Heals Yourself
Compassion is the energy I reach for to soothe the emotional wounds that others give me. This switches me from victim to healer, and in doing so, it cools the flames of my anger and lights up my darkness.
It helps me accept, and let go of being the victim.
My attachment to being the victim only hurt me
Victimhood is a badge I used to wear often. It’s a self-serving attitude that justified my damaged feelings.
However, I was only harming myself by supporting my anger and sadness to create bitterness towards people that did me wrong.
This never brought me any peace. It only irritated the wound.
If you’ve felt this, then you know it’s a nasty cycle to be caught in.
Unresolved pain creates more of itself
Before compassion could work its magic, I had to come to an important understanding first.
I noticed while peaceful and fulfilled people act nice overall, chaotic and unfulfilled people are more on edge, acting mean or even harmful when triggered. Their inner turmoil can get so riled up that it overflows and spills onto others.
