I used to date people that needed saving and it failed horribly every time. I hadn't worked enough on myself in the first place. After a few years of being alone to figure out what I needed from myself to start healing, I decided the next person I date, all I want is for them to show me they are working on themselves.

No need to be perfect, as you mentioned that doesn't exist. But to be with someone who shows kindness and compassion to themselves and others, and are doing the work it takes to help their soul stay healthy... well that's important to me.

I found that person, and 9 years later we are still together. We've helped each other grow because we both practice spirituality in our own ways and have come to the agreement that bringing peace to our hearts and sharing that peace is more important than being right. This dynamic has helped us keep our relationship healthy and thriving.