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Inner Peace
People Pleasing Is an Incredibly Reliable Way To Feel Like Crap All the Time
But there is a peaceful way to end this habit.
People pleasing only drags you down in the end. I’ve done this for a long time, and it’s still one of the main things about myself that I’m working on healing.
Unfortunately, there’s some advice out there that says being a people pleaser is a show of weakness. It encourages you to fix this by being your “true” self, despite how others feel. While I agree to a point, this advice is often overly aggressive and uses being genuine as an excuse for rude behavior. That’s lame.
This type of advice also doesn’t address the real problem. People pleasing isn’t about being weak or strong. It’s just a habit that formed from the continuous triggering of an emotional injury that revolves around needing validation or approval. Emotional wounds like this need healing, not judgment.
But before healing can take place, a good understanding of this habit’s negative effects is important.
Goodbye present moment
When I am busy pleasing others at my expense, there is one thing I’m certainly not, and that is present.
