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Stumbling While on a New Self-Improvement Path Is Normal
Don’t let shame make it worse.
If you are on some sort of self-improvement path, there will be times of failure. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to write a book, get in shape, meditate, eat healthier, etc. Mistakes are part of what paves the road to self-transformation.
It’s normal when going after something new. None of us are perfect, so messing up is inevitable. But it’s important to know how to continue down your chosen path without the occasional misstep stopping you.
Shame’s got a strong bite
There is a natural enemy to progressing with self-improvement and it’ll try to sink its teeth in at every mistake. The name of this beast is “Shame”. Once its fangs are set in, there is no amount of struggle or fighting that can unclench its jaw.
When I shame myself over my mess ups, everything stops. I can’t make any progress down my path because my feet are frozen in place. The reason for this is that shame uses a combo of overthinking and guilt to keep me stuck.
So when we make a mistake, shame will latch onto guilt and put the incident on repeat in the mind. This stops progress because energy is wasted on distraction. I went through this…
